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Prevent the Infestation of Bad Behaviour
When parents describe their family as being in crisis it is not only the child’s behaviour that is out of control – it is often the parents as well. Relationships throughout the home are strained which creates a negative ‘ripple effect’ through their lives which can go on and on for the length of those lives and beyond.
It need not be like this. Health service providers have a role to promote early intervention and education in effective behaviour management. So I recommend parents research and settle on an approach to discipline sooner rather than later. People say to me “your average mum or dad is not going to seek out education on discipline strategies until there’s a problem” and I agree, but reply “because this is the way they have been taught to think. I bet the average mum or dad when building a home will research an effective termite treatment to prevent the problems an infestation to their home will cause?” We need to be taught to think differently when it comes to parents’ responsibilities and priorities when considering or entering parenthood.
The parents and carers who do seek early intervention or education usually report that setting limits and saying ‘no’ is the most common challenge they encounter or foresaw as being a problem. For these parents it is not so much the dilemma of working out what behaviour is ok and what is not ok or what to say ‘no’ to, but how to stand by these limits when children challenge or resist them.
This is evident by the uncomfortable feelings experienced by parents when a child dislikes them at these times, albeit momentarily. Parents need to find a way to feel comfortable in knowing that setting limits is healthy for their child and for the parent-child relationship in that it helps facilitate the development of the child’s ability to self-regulate their emotions and associated behaviour.
Behaviour Tonics
With 12 years nursing experience, the past 8 years working specifically with children with emotional, social and behavioural problems, Brad established Behaviour Tonics after identifying a lack of services available to manage children’s challenging behaviours. His techniques and programs are easy to understand and produce extremely positive results.
Brad talks about his simple three steps in his Behaviour Tonics program;
1. Manage Difficult Behaviour
2. Encourage Good Behaviour
3. Strengthen Relationships
Parents don’t need to study child psychology to understand the three simple steps in the program, and they can get their results quickly. Brad can also help manage tantrums in public and teach parents strategies to avoid the Talk-Persuade-Argue-Yell-Hit Syndrome.
Brad Williams
Taken from the Medical forum WA, May 2007, Brad Williams - the Bad Behaviour Buster Brad runs the Behaviour Tonics, a Perth consultancy helping parents, teachers and children through a partnership with www.parentshop.com.au and the incredible 1-2-3 Magic! Program.
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